This has been a difficult task, trying to integrate two families. There were and occassionally still are, moments where I'm not so certain we're going to make it. Our parenting styles are completely different. I'm very passive - he's rather militant. I like to discuss - he likes to command. I hug - he barks. We both love these kids with all of our hearts though.
Over the past year, we've each learned from the other, been pissed at each other but have continued to stand side-by-side and parent our family. The kids, for the most part, haven't made it very easy. My kids don't respond well to barking. His kids don't like that my kids don't respond well to barking. And so the story goes............BUT they're all starting to come around. It just takes time, like all things.
I do have to say that this man has endured quite a bit of crap from my kids (both the grown ones and the 2 that live with us) and their father. My boyfriend VERY VERY clearly loves me and them. I'm not so sure I would have been able to tough it out like he has. I would have run far, far away.
Today, as I sit and think about my blessings, I am so very thankful for these kids (grown, little, adopted, acquired, etc.) who make up our little blended, somewhat disfunctional family. I love them all. I can only hope that when they look back on these times, they remember how much we love them and that we did the best we could to give them a sense of family. I can't imagine my life without them all in it.
Have a peaceful, family filled, wonderful Thanksgiving my soul sisters!!!
Peace and love!!!